Enjoying my weekly sing with our wonderful ‘up beat’ ladies choir, I posed a question to one of its members – the response to which has prompted this month’s blog.
With the common goal of making a good sound and just enjoying ourselves, this group of individuals – diverse in age and occupation, shares a camaraderie that can be felt as soon as you enter the room. A break for a coffee is a time to get to know people better and a time when I asked a younger member if she was also a teacher, as several others around us. “Oh no – I’m just a mother,” she said, almost apologetically. It was not the first time I have heard this response from a women who was staying at home to nurture her offspring. Although this mother was quick to show off her delightful children, as she proudly searched her cell phone for their pictures, I couldn’t help thinking that she somehow needed my approval to do so.
What has society done to make women feel they are almost insignificant citizens when they choose the most challenging, tiring but fulfilling and natural roles – to be a full time mother to their offspring? Isn’t it time that we cherished the people who, as teachers in their own right – determine the society of tomorrow?
Speaking about her current change of good fortune, someone close to me made a profound observation of life. She said that it was regretful that we are unable to enjoy our lives during the bad times whilst waiting for the better days to arrive. She was right. When I recall my last months in France as I so urgently awaited a buyer for my house, I realize now how the anticipation and uncertainty distracted me from fully enjoying a very precious time; a time that I will never retrieve to experience again.
Consciousness is probably one of the most used words in our language at the moment. But what does this word really mean? It seems that many of us have a different understanding of consciousness but my own perception of it is simply – being awake. If we are truly awake we are also aware. We are not only aware of our own actions and their effects on others, we are totally connected to what we are doing and experiencing now – in this very moment. Being fully conscious prevents us from regretting our past mistakes or holding on to the past rather than embracing the present. When we embrace the moment we are in, we don’t have time to fear the future because we quickly start to appreciate that ‘this moment’ is all there ever will be.
Yes, anxiously awaiting the responses of my many house viewers, I did sometimes experience (something I thought I’d learnt to handle), the see-saw effects of anticipation and gloom – as I began to wonder if I would ever sell. In my own stillness however, I was reminded frequently that it was out of my hands now and to enjoy just being where I was at the time. But my ego just had to have its say – always frightened of being ousted or demoted. Egos feel uncomfortable in stillness and peace – almost like the jack-in-the-box that won’t go to sleep.
So now I can see the whole picture. My house was bought by the most unlikely people at the most perfect timing on both my journey and theirs. It was perfectly designed in every detail, not by chance but by an all knowing power that constantly tries to guide us on our destined path – if we will only quieten our mind for long enough to receive.